Our society which we find ourselves living in, says “yes” to everything. There seems to be no boundaries to the whims and desires of people. It’s yes, yes, yes all of the time. Modesty is about setting those boundaries and knowing when to say “No.” And our Bible tells us when to say “No.” There is no guesswork involved.
The Most High gave Israelites the Law, which details how we are to live. So no matter what is going on, we are to be set-apart and have our boundaries. Contrary to our society, the Torah is very clear and there is no confusion about anything. With all that goes on around us, it is difficult not to become confused when society is the example. It’s no wonder the young teens of today behave the way they do. Children learn best by example. They do what they see everyone else doing, particularly those closest to them. This is why it is necessary that we begin teaching our children early about boundaries and the importance of honoring them. We are a holy nation and we do not have to follow and except all the mess that’s out there. It has to start with us.
Boundaries protect us, and tznuit keeps intimacy and this gift of sexuality given to us by The Most High the way it’s suppose to be: beautiful, romantic and sacred. Unlike animals, we have the power to say “No." Animals operate on instinct and simply respond and react. YHWH has given men and women the power to think and to decide.
"And they were both naked, the man and his wife, yet they were not ashamed" (Gen. 2:25). Back in the early days of creation, there was no concept of “tznuit” as we know it today. So why do we wear clothing anyway? "Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they knew that they were naked. And they sewed fig leaves together and made loin coverings for themselves" (Gen. 3:7). This is known as The Great Fall of Mankind. When God created the world, it was created in such a way that everything was made for godliness. “And Elohim saw all that he had made, and see it was very good” (Gen. 1:31). There was no lust in the wrong way. It was all about holiness.
When Adam and Eve ate from the tree of knowledge, they realized that there is bad and good. Bad and good became two separate entities. Contrary to what the Serpent had told Eve, this was not a step of progress. At that point, they realized this and covered themselves up. They immediately realized that the body could be used in ungodly ways, understanding that we can become distracted with thoughts and feelings that are not meant for the good. So today we have to conduct ourselves in a way that the good in us will be projected and seen. It is important that when others look upon us, that we are not encouraging inappropriate lustful thoughts. We want our inner beauty to shine and be the focus.
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Teaching Our Girls Modesty Part III: Why is So Much of Modesty Focused on Women?